Okay, so I don’t mean to make this post all about negativity, 13 days in to the new year and I’m already talking about failure, but this is something that I’ve only just kind of built up the courage to write because nobody wants to read about these types of things in a brand new year, however highlighting that it is okay to fail sometimes is more of the important message I’m trying to get across.
Failure comes in all shapes and sizes; it’s down to you whether you see it as a big or small thing. Failure can be anything from not passing a test, to not getting that promotion or generally not meeting targets/goals you have set yourself and if I’m being honest, I have experienced all of the above, but you know what, it doesn’t make me fear failure, it actually helps me learn and develop and be better. I have always been a risk taker, taking chances is something I am never scared of, fear doesn’t worry me because like I have already mentioned, failure makes me better. Life is not always about wins and no losses, if that was the case, then it would be extremely boring. Don’t take this the wrong way because I’m not saying failure doesn’t cause upset and hurt, it does and of course losing sucks, but who cares, taking a chance and trying it out is much more rewarding and if at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again, simples.
If you ever feel like things just aren’t working out as how you expected it to be, don’t be afraid to admit defeat and accept the truth. It’s okay to fail and here are some steps to embrace if that point comes along.
Identify your thoughts and feelings
As soon as something doesn’t quite work out, the first thing we generally do is analyse why it went wrong and try to think of ways to problem solve and make it better for next time. While this is good way to start and definitely helpful, identifying and capturing your thoughts and feelings first and foremost is more productive in the long run.
Be sympathetic, but don’t beat yourself up
Don’t fall victim to hard sympathy, the easiest way when failing is feel sorry for yourself, but don’t beat yourself up about it. I know it’s hard, but rise above the challenge, try not to be discouraged or disappointed, try not to be angry or sad. Going back to the first point, pan out your thoughts and work on it.
Forgive and accept your failure
Probably not the most appealing ways to approach it, but by banishing negativity and accepting the failure as an inevitable occurrence is the perfect way to forgive it. Show yourself some compassion and by doing this, you may even achieve a new sense of motivation that will ensure you take on your next challenge with success.