Rejection is never fun, we all know and we have all been through it more than once in life. It’s something we have to deal with, whether it’s a job/promotion, a certain someone or an opportunity in life, learning how to cope effectively with the common ‘thanks, but no thanks’ messages is how you will move forward from it. No matter how you try to wing it, being rejected is a blow to your ego, it can be painful and you first choice might be to down an alcoholic drink (or five), but I promise you that there are more effective ways to deal with it.
Take a moment and let it sink
Being rejected of course hurts, but that doesn’t mean you should act straight away and in a hasty manner. Before firing off, take a moment to put your thoughts together, compose yourself and accept the decision. Do what you need to do first, whether it’s an intense work out at the gym, eating cake and crying, let your emotions out because dwelling on them will only keep you stuck at the same point.
Re-evaluate and don’t take it personally
Once you have accepted what’s happened, re-evaluate, but don’t focus it on too much. If it was a job application rejection, then yes, have a think about what you could have possibly done better and ask for feedback. In my opinion, reaching out and asking for tips is an important part of the process of acceptance and shows that you are a professional and a respectful person. If it was certain someone who rejected you, try hard not to take personally. The reason why it is hurtful is because we are emotionally attached to the person and we automatically blame ourselves for what happened. Whereas, the truth is, it has absolutely nothing to do with us at all and the person has totally different reasons as to why they have rejected us.
It doesn’t define who you are
Always, always, always know what you stand for, your worth and who you are. Rejection can knock you two steps, but be strong and bring yourself back. Most of us will experience those dreaded negative feelings towards ourselves and assume it defines us as a person, but I can assure you, it absolutely does not, you have nothing to worry about and it happens to the best of us. On the next time you experience rejection, think of just how amazing you are and all your accomplishments to date.
Be grateful that everything happens for a reason
Oh yes, that famous line – everything does happen for a reason and this line is one I truly believe in. It may take some time for you to see why and understand the reason, but at the end of it all, you will be thankful to the person who rejected you because you would have learnt something new about yourself and in the long run, makes you better.
The most important part of rejection is when you get to this stage and you can safely move on from it. Holding grudges and dwelling on the situation will accomplish nothing on your part except make you even more frustrated and vulnerable. Don’t waste any more time or energy obsessing over something you can’t change, instead take the feedback and use it to improve on yourself.
The more you take on and respond to rejection, the more you will learn to not take it personally. Life is all about the ups and down, the attitude you use towards it and how you act upon it is what matters. Use it to grow, motivate and develop. It will teach you to become more confident and fearless, I promise.
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