Growing old – the older we get, the better we get, just like cheese and wine. And if you’re reading this and think ‘well, I’m not old’ – none of us are as young as we think, so we should embrace age as it comes, it’s just a fact. However, it’s not necessarily bad news, of course, our fitness won’t always stay the same, our bodies will change and our minds will become slower, but you will always have something that you did not have in your teens or your early 20’s.
For many of us, especially those in your late 20’s or early 30’s, you’ve reached the point where - how you thought your life was going to pan out ran off page and you’re stuck with what to do next. To be honest, this isn’t the be all and end all, in fact, it’s good news because this is your chance to really live by your rules and your priorities. As I’m sat here pondering about growing old, I’ve listed a few tips on how to embrace it and make it work for you even if it scares you.
Failing is real, learn how to accept and to forgive
Failure happens and it probably happens more than succeeding to be honest. The cure? Well, apart from scrolling through Pinterest failure quotes for a good hour or two and psyching yourself back up, having the right attitude to try again proves that you’ve tried and now you’re ready to give it another go. Don’t give up hope, successes always matter and they really are worth it. Moving swiftly on to forgiveness, as we get old, holding on to bitterness actually weighs you down. This top tip may sound like a given, but letting go and forgiving does wonders and allows you to fully move on from negativity.
Don’t bail to convention
Embracing what you really want is your own definition of happiness. You don’t have to wait until a certain age, you don’t have to bowed down to what others think, if you want to be a lil crazy, then go ahead, no matter what your age. Life changes in an instant, opportunities come and go, we are never promised anything, so always be grateful for what you get as we are probably luckier than we realise. There is no reason why your best years can’t be now or ahead of you – throw convention out the door and just do you.
Help others understand you
Before anyone can understand you, you really must get to know yourself first. People always say, you change with age and by all means, yes, you do, this is what this whole post is basically about, but by keeping in touch and helping others understand you ensures you get the best out of others and yourself. Whatever causes you to change, be it a break up, a sudden urge to re-evaluate, a spiritual experience, anything – by letting people know what to expect will stop you feeling like you’re letting people or yourself down. Change is a massive part of growing older, embrace it and help others too.
Ask the questions
The joys of questioning as you get older – oh, how use to them I am now, haa! Don’t get me wrong, I still am afraid to ask questions sometimes, but I have learnt that if you don’t ask, you don’t get and if you have nothing to lose, then just ask and see what happens – the worse is a no and trust me, you will get a lot of those in your lifetime and they really don’t matter when you come to realise in the end.
You do you boo
At the end of the day, if you want to do something, then go ahead and do it, you shouldn’t allow anything to stop you. Be it a career change or a new hobby that challenges you, you will never know until you try, and nothing will haunt you more than the opportunities you didn’t take. This is your chance to draw the picture you’ve always wanted and there is no wrong way to live your life – it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone, but you. So on that end note, you do you boo.