Whether it’s a first date or a job interview, meeting someone new can be quite nerve-wracking, daunting and stressful to say the least. Even for those, who are self-proclaimed social butterflies feel the pressure – we all want to be charming, self-confident and friendly and we want to make good impression, but it isn’t always easy and you never know how the other person will see you. However, if you think that it’s going to be hard for you to control your actions and the way you come across, I may just have some tips for you. It’s definitely not hard to follow and will at least, help you put your best foot forward and help you make an awesome impression.
Dress to impress
Wear an outfit that makes you feel confident and amazing – an outfit that doesn’t require any adjusting throughout the day, an outfit that fits nicely and an outfit that is comfortable. Remember, you need to be able to walk, sit, eat and perhaps dance in it, so make sure it’s easy, comfy yet packs a punch. A good outfit ensures your confidence is at its highest and will really make a difference to your impression as a whole.
Make your small talk more personal
Okay, so who has been in an situation where it’s gone dead quiet and you have to improvise and make some sort of small talk by commenting on the weather for example? Hands up to that for me and it can be pretty awkward, but if you do feel that situation is slowly lurking, nip it in the bud by changing the conversation with some personal topics such as their weekend hobbies or a movie/book they’ve watched/read recently, just so it keep the conversation flowing.
Body language is key
It comes as no surprise that body language speaks a thousand words – think of a time when you was on the receiving end of bad body language – for example, glances over your shoulder at someone else walking past or the endless laptop checking for the latest email or the worst one, taking out their phone and answering messages on there. When meeting someone new, ensure you keep eye contact and be present in the moment, don’t get distracted by something else, bad body language is what people keep memory of.
Delve in deeper
After the initial awkwardness (if there is any that is), ask questions that have a purpose and questions that matter. Get them to elaborate on points where you’d like to know more about and most importantly, listen to them. On the other hand, from your side, share your stories, maybe the reason why you chose your career path or why you enjoy a certain hobby. Make the conversation meaningful, but don’t overshare – at the end of the day, it is only a first impression for now.
Always remember that the other person is probably just as nervous or anxious as you are, so try and relax, enjoy the moment and when the other person can see that you’re relaxed, they will automatically become less nervous. This is great way to ensure that a good impression is left by making the other person feel comfortable and good about themselves and it works both ways also, the end result is to both feel comfortable with each other.
What do you think is a key point when making a first impression?