As young professionals, we always strive to be faster and better at what we do. We want to be in or are already in our dream jobs, we want to travel the world, exploring new places, going on adventures and making memories. We want to meet new people, fall in love, and fall out of love and all sorts because YOLO right? Then it dawns on us that as we get older (this was me at 25), the sudden realisation thought of ‘oh god, I am getting old’ really hits you hard and then you look at what you have and see that maybe you’re not in your dream job or you haven’t started that business you’ve always talked about and don’t even mention buying a house – because we all know how hard that is these days. You’re on the race to the big 3-0 and all of a sudden, you feel the need to do anything and everything to live your life to the fullest and achieve what you want to achieve.
This was me for a good few years, I worked two jobs, started writing this blog, travelled a lot – I felt like I could do anything if I put my mind to it. However, on the flip side, it caught up with me, I barely had time for my family which I regret so much. I had FOMO, so I accepted everything that came along just so I could keep up to date with what’s happening and be in and amongst all thing socially – this put so much more pressure on me to make time and to please everyone. Eventually, I had burnt both ends and I was completely exhausted, I knew it was time to slow down and focus on what was more important which was my health. I slowed down dramatically in terms of everything – I quit my part-time job, created a schedule for this blog, stop travelling as much and put a lot more time in seeing family and friends. My lifestyle took a complete overhaul and I couldn’t be happier with how it all panned out. Here’s some of the steps I took to take back control of my life:
I leave my job on time and don’t take it home with me
Shutting down my computer and finishing my work at 5:30pm isn’t a sign of lack of ambition, but a way of knowing that enough is enough for the day, considering I start work at 8:30am. I use to feel guilty doing this whilst others around me are still tapping away, but I soon found out that it’s healthy to finish work on time and even better when you don’t take it home because, quite frankly, the work can wait until tomorrow.
I am in bed by 10:30pm
As boring as it sounds, having a set time to get in to bed is very important for your health. I don’t fall asleep straight away when I jump in, I may read a book or play on my phone for a bit, but being in bed and winding down sets me up for a good night and ensures I wake up feeling fresh and ready to start the day again. I normally get up about 7am, so that gives me a good 8 hours kip.
I make a conscious effort to always have breakfast
I always find myself most productive after a good breakfast, so I always ensure that I don’t miss it. A good breakfast keeps my energy levels up and stops me from snacking mid-morning. I try to have eggs (poached or boiled) on brown bread normally as that fills me up and a huge glass of water to flush out the toxins.
I don’t care what everyone else says
Because you know what – people who have negative opinions of you and what you do isn’t really worth your time, so let them go and enjoy doing what you love. Those who stick around and support you are the ones you keep close to your heart. Once you start to not care what everyone says, you will feel so much better and have more energy to focus on yourself.
Believe that there is life after 30
Turning 30 is a big thing for most, and believe me, it isn’t at all bad when you get there – we are only just getting started. I actually felt a fresh lease of life when I hit the big 3-0 and everything that I’ve always wanted to do in my 20’s suddenly didn’t really matter. I believe that we don’t have to conform to what society thinks or wants us to do, we do everything in our own time and so what if I didn’t get my first house in my 20’s or married before I was 30 - it just doesn’t matter anymore.
Have you been through the famous ‘quarter life crisis’? If yes, how did you overcome it?